It begins every day with one small action – taking the time to be still. Whether you call it centering prayer or meditation, it is the same idea and the same principle at work. First, I had to develop the habit. I wrote Psalm 46:10, “Be still and know that I am God”, on a post it and stuck it to the refrigerator, where I would be certain to see it every day.
I had to be still in order to set my intention to have peace of mind by learning to let go and surrender. Events just “happened” which taught me how to do it. At first it was little things, like the realization that I did not have to get angry at the person who cut me off in traffic. I could decide to find a good radio station and sing. I did not have to let one thoughtless action by someone else affect me in a negative way.
Then later, through a series of painful events involving step-children, I gradually learned to let go of control even more. When you come to love your husband’s children, it is difficult when their biological mother is unable to work with you for their benefit. There were often situations I did not think were healthy, and I found myself powerless, unable to help. I needed to learn to pray for them and trust that things would work out in time.
On a busy day when I still had a job, 3 minutes was my usual amount of time in the morning, and on a “bad” day when I had to rest, usually because I pulled a muscle or did too much physically, it could be up to 20 minutes in the afternoon. Now that I don’t work, I usually spend 10 -15 minutes in the morning meditating and 5 – 10 minutes in the afternoon doing healing meditations.
It is a never ending process and well worth the time spent. I found that when I don’t feel like being still I actually benefit from taking a “time out” even more.